Are you happy with what you are doing in your life?
I have been a recruitment consultant / career consultant for the last 5 years of my life. I have connected with people who are too stressed with their work, some are too bored, others simply confused with what they should do next, and a number of people just going with the flow following whatever is the latest trend.
I wish I could say the unhappiness in their career stops there. But in prolonged stressful period, the misery in their career life starts to affect their family life, social life, and spiritual life. Habitual drinking, gambling, or excessive eating, shopping become a regular hobby.
Okay, enough said. Instead of complaining about it, I found a way to do something about it. It is no coincidence I got invited to a Career Direct training recently and was among the very first batch to be certified in Singapore. I really believe this is the solution.
WHAT IN THE WORLD IS CAREER DIRECT?
Career Direct is a holistic assessment tool that aligns your very being to what you should be doing. But it doesn’t just match you to a career. It leads you to your calling. Let me explain what I mean.
Other assessment tools, whether job profiling, skills profiling, or personality profiling, focus on 1 or 2 areas at the most. Career Direct uses 4 areas that function as filters to lead you to what you are born to do. These 4 filters are: Personality, General Interests, Natural Skills, and Values. It is a holistic approach.
Just because you are good at logic and excellent at coming up with formulas doesn’t mean you should be a software engineer. You may have the skills, but can your personality allow you to sit in front of a computer all day long? Being good at your work is not enough, you have to enjoy what you are doing. Just because you enjoy interacting with kids doesn’t mean you will enjoy being a kindergarten teacher. Do you thrive in a noisy, hard-to-control environment all day long? Or do you get stressed? Enjoying what you do is not enough, you have to be at your natural habitat. Bottom line is, it’s not enough to be naturally good at what you do, or be passionate at what you do, or enjoy what you do, or align what you do with your values. It has to be all of the above. When you align these 4 areas, peace of mind, sense of fulfillment, and life purpose are guaranteed.
YOU ARE DESIGNED
Last note. There’s a twist. Some of you may like it and some of you may not (I really hope you will like this though). Career Direct is based on the principle that you are created. You are intricately designed. You are not random. You are who you are for a purpose. If you are talkative, it has a purpose. If you are shy (most shy people are good listeners), it has a purpose. Some are born for the outdoors, they love to travel. Others are stressed to travel even once a month. Accept who you are. Don’t try to be someone you are not. Understand that you are fine according to your Creator. There’s no need to say “I wish I could be more like him/her.” You have your own unique design to fulfill your own unique calling.
Did you notice? Most people who are naturally excellent at math/logic are usually poor at music/arts, and vice versa. Most people who are poor at academics are either good in athletics or are good in business (they realize this only when they leave school). Most people who are naturally smooth talkers are not very good listeners, and people who are more quiet are naturally good listeners. Of course, exceptions apply. But the point is, we are all gifted in our own ways. I am good in something you are not, and you are good in something I am not. For crying out loud, even people born blind are gifted with a more acute sense of hearing.
No matter who you are, no matter what you have been through, regardless of what you think about yourself, you have talents and gifts that are aligned with your purpose.
So, do you know who you are? Have you discovered your gifts? Do you know what you are supposed to do with those gifts? Are you living according to the way you are designed?
I can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org for more details.
(Career Direct is 100% scientific, and took 10 years and $2 Million to perfect. Fees apply. More information on http://careerdirect-ge.org/, or email me at email@example.com)
Take a moment and ask yourself this question – How lucky are you?
Hey I’m not going to write about “feng shui” or preach some “there’s no such thing as luck” ideology. Today I am writing about blessings and curses.
So seriously, try to evaluate how much luck you have had in your life so far. How much blessings/fortunate events have happened? How many unfavorable or unfortunate events had occur?
Here are two true stories. I know a guy who had been immensely blessed. He talked about how this event changed his life, how he gained a better perspective, and how this event put him in a good position to help others. He was even invited to TED Talks (a global set of conferences reserved only for those ideas that are worth spreading).
On the other hand, I also read about the story of Dionie Reyes. A man who underwent heart surgery, has no money to pay his expensive bills, deeply in debt, and is desperately trying to sell his house.
Out of the two stories above, it seems like one guy is very blessed, and the other guy is cursed. Well yeah that’s true. Because one of them is a lottery winner, and the other one is a cancer survivor. But guess which is which.
Yup, it’s the other way around. The man who said he was immensely blessed is the guy who had cancer. And the man who won the lottery is the one who is in the brink of bankruptcy. Cancer enabled the guy to reflect what’s really important in life, gave him the chance to right the wrongs in his lifestyle, and he now spends his time supporting other cancer patients and educating the public about it. While the lottery winner got the chance to splurge, womanize, gamble, went on regular drinking sprees. He even admitted he used to come home to a crying wife every night begging him to change his ways. But he didn’t listen. As a result he is now deep in debt.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying cancer is a blessing and winning the lottery is a curse. No. What I’m saying is this. Blessings and curses are one. They are the same. It is your mentality and behavior that defines the difference. Let me give a simpler example.
When I first moved to Singapore I don’t have a job. I came here with a tourist pass that’s good for only 30 days. So when I got a job I raised both fists in triumph. Blessing has arrived! After a year, I found myself working 10-12 hours a day, burned out, drained, unhappy. My health has deteriorated. Curse has arrived! The point here is that a job can either be a blessing or a curse, depending on how I handle it.
But it’s not just your job that can either be a blessing or a curse. I believe every blessing can be a curse, and every curse can be a blessing. All depending on how you take it. Money can make you serve more people and do the works of God, or it can make you greedy and fall for materialism. Power can give you the chance to bring justice to others and to the needy, or it can corrupt your character and lets you self-destruct in the long run. Fame can give you recognition, but it can also take away your privacy.
You get the point. Life throws all sorts of challenges and rewards at us. What we do with it determines our blessings and curses. So here’s my question again. How lucky or unlucky have you been? Are there more blessings or are there more curses in your life? Be honest with yourself.
If you think there are more blessings, I admire your outlook in life. Keep it up. If you think there are more curses, don’t worry, the good news is that there’s no need to buy lucky charm or burn incense. You just need to reshape your perspective, your psyche, and sometimes even your behavior. Remember, curses and blessings are one. So even if you are surrounded with curses now, you can always gather yourself and choose to convert them to blessings.
Let me end with a quote from Anthony Robbins. “Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.” You have that awesome ability. Use it. Your curses will be blessings one day.
Free your mind,
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