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Between blessings and curses

Take a moment and ask yourself this question – How lucky are you?

Hey I’m not going to write about “feng shui” or preach some “there’s no such thing as luck” ideology.  Today I am writing about blessings and curses.

So seriously, try to evaluate how much luck you have had in your life so far.  How much blessings/fortunate events have happened?  How many unfavorable or unfortunate events had occur?

Here are two true stories.  I know a guy who had been immensely blessed.  He talked about how this event changed his life, how he gained a better perspective, and how this event put him in a good position to help others.  He was even invited to TED Talks (a global set of conferences reserved only for those ideas that are worth spreading).

On the other hand, I also read about the story of Dionie Reyes.  A man who underwent heart surgery, has no money to pay his expensive bills, deeply in debt, and is desperately trying to sell his house.

Out of the two stories above, it seems like one guy is very blessed, and the other guy is cursed.  Well yeah that’s true.  Because one of them is a lottery winner, and the other one is a cancer survivor.  But guess which is which.

Yup, it’s the other way around.  The man who said he was immensely blessed is the guy who had cancer.  And the man who won the lottery is the one who is in the brink of bankruptcy.  Cancer enabled the guy to reflect what’s really important in life, gave him the chance to right the wrongs in his lifestyle, and he now spends his time supporting other cancer patients and educating the public about it.  While the lottery winner got the chance to splurge, womanize, gamble, went on regular drinking sprees.  He even admitted he used to come home to a crying wife every night begging him to change his ways.  But he didn’t listen.  As a result he is now deep in debt.

Don’t get me wrong.  I’m not saying cancer is a blessing and winning the lottery is a curse.  No.  What I’m saying is this.  Blessings and curses are one.  They are the same.  It is your mentality and behavior that defines the difference.  Let me give a simpler example.

When I first moved to Singapore I don’t have a job.  I came here with a tourist pass that’s good for only 30 days.  So when I got a job I raised both fists in triumph.  Blessing has arrived!  After a year, I found myself working 10-12 hours a day, burned out, drained, unhappy.  My health has deteriorated.  Curse has arrived!  The point here is that a job can either be a blessing or a curse, depending on how I handle it.

But it’s not just your job that can either be a blessing or a curse.  I believe every blessing can be a curse, and every curse can be a blessing.  All depending on how you take it.  Money can make you serve more people and do the works of God, or it can make you greedy and fall for materialism.  Power can give you the chance to bring justice to others and to the needy, or it can corrupt your character and lets you self-destruct in the long run.  Fame can  give you recognition, but it can also take away your privacy.

You get the point.  Life throws all sorts of challenges and rewards at us.  What we do with it determines our blessings and curses.  So here’s my question again.  How lucky or unlucky have you been?  Are there more blessings or are there more curses in your life?  Be honest with yourself.

If you think there are more blessings, I admire your outlook in life.  Keep it up.  If you think there are more curses, don’t worry, the good news is that there’s no need to buy lucky charm or burn incense.  You just need to reshape your perspective, your psyche, and sometimes even your behavior.  Remember, curses and blessings are one.  So even if you are surrounded with curses now, you can always gather yourself and choose to convert them to blessings.

Let me end with a quote from Anthony Robbins.  “Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.”  You have that awesome ability.  Use it.  Your curses will be blessings one day.

Free your mind,

Dan

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